Pic was taken @ Botanical Garden, Penang :)

30 April 2011

MLTR Concert in KL :))

Konsert Micheal Learns To Rock
24 April 2011

Sebenarnya hari yang sama saya perlu menduduki peperiksaan Organisational Behaviour. Terus terang saya memang tidak ada semangat untuk menatap buku OB. Subjeknya bukanlah susah bebenor tapi terlalu banyak teori dan pendekatan yang perlu dihafal sedangkan di dunia pekerjaan ianya tidak seilmiah sedemikian hhhmmmmm... namun saya terus menatap buku OB sambil lagu2 MLTR berkumandang di hp, notebook dan dalam kereta hehehehe

Selesai peperiksaan saya terus ke sana. Nasib baik KLCC dekat jadi kami pun bersuka ria dulu hehehe Masuk sahaja ke dalam dewan... mak oi!!!! ramainya orang!!! Full house!!! and the organiser was really strict no recording at all, cissssss!!!

while waiting for the concert to start

the boys started rocking

and they keep on rocking

sedeynya konsert dah nak habisss huhuhu

tak dapat amik gambar dengan orangnya... dengan poster pun jadik lah

lama juga kami menunggu dengan harapan the boys came out and meet the fans tapi hampeh sungguh... but the concert was rocking hard beb! sure gonna be there if they comes back, insyallah...

26 April 2011

How to Elevate Your Self Esteem - wikiHow

How to Elevate Your Self Esteem

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For many years now, "self-esteem" has been synonymous with "self image," but that's not really what self-esteem is. Positive self-image is important - it's caring about yourself and seeing yourself as a unique and special individual simply because of who you are as a human being.
Self-esteem is a positive sense of one's own worth that is based on actually doing worthy things - it's that feeling you get when you've accomplished something, and it's a great feeling. Here's how to build it and help others lift theirs in the process.


  1. Do things and live life so that you impress yourself. There's only one way to elevate your self-esteem - earn your own respect. Many times we try to impress others but that's a fool's game. The person you really need to impress is you. Always seek to improve yourself against your own achievements, your own milestones, not anyone else's.
    • Stop trying to win other's respect. Live your life with integrity and self-determination based on what impresses you, and respect will follow.
    • When possible, walk away from people who don't respect you. When you can't, don't sink to their level. That can be difficult but it improves with practice. It makes a good goal in itself to learn not to sink to their level when people disrespect you. Understand that they may have a generic reason to disrespect you such as prejudice or by character they may be malicious. If it's a misunderstanding, try sorting it out - when a liar spreads stories about you it can be hard to sort out what they said and spread the truth but it can cause people who'd otherwise take you as you are to treat you with disrespect. Understand the differences in those situations and absolutely never trust anyone who's lied about you behind your back again.
    • While other people's opinions and ideas have their place in your life, don't set your life according to them. Listen and take on board what works for you but only internalize that which you believe improves you or works for because you have made a choice for yourself.

  2. Set goals and work toward them. They don't have to be pie-in-the-sky, they can just be gradual improvements. You could decide to learn to play the guitar, for example. Start by saving up to get a guitar, then learn one chord until you have it perfect, then another, then another. Get guitar books and sheet music from the library learning one song at a time or play by ear. Or learn to draw with art books, a sketchbook and pencils by practicing every day. A different example: you have a B- overall grade point average. Resolve to raise your GPA at least a half grade each semester until you are a B+, then you will renegotiate. Begin to study harder, join a study group or choose a study partner. As you begin to gain mastery of your schoolwork and see your GPA rise to a B and finally to a B+, you will have a solid sense of accomplishment - and your self-esteem will rise. Both daily success - "I studied tonight" and external success "I'm good enough to play guitar at a party and no one laughed at me" are different types of self esteem.
    • Judge your goals wisely. Look at your real goals and interests in life. If your long term goal is to become an educated professional or get a free ride scholarship to college, then raising your grades is the first step in a long road to a large personal success. If you're raising your grades from B+ to A+ to please a critical parent that expects perfection, choose a self esteem goal that doesn't rest on their opinion of your success, such as learning to draw, play guitar, build a collection, tell jokes well, skills that will help you relax when you're successful in a high pressure career. You're already living one, something in your life has to be just from the heart. A good goal is something you would enjoy anyway even if no one knew you did it, no one paid for it and no one complimented it. That feeds the soul.

  3. Gain accomplishments and achievements. Study hard. Take that B+ and turn it into Honors by keeping it as a personal subject of study for one to three years. Or play hard at a sport. Even if you are only average, the more you practice, the better you will get, and that's an achievement of its own. Choose something to excel at, choose a goal, and work hard toward it until you achieve - even working toward bettering yourself for the sake of doing it is a worthy pursuit.
    • Play to your strengths. If you run fast and aren't bulky or strong, maybe track is a better sport than football. If you're creative and dramatic, consider drama and audition for school plays. If you're great at math and hate slippery literature and arts subjects, seek out the Astronomy Club or Chess Club and build your skills in the areas that come easiest. Strengthen your native talents. It's good to have at least one goal like this that comes from exactly who you are and what you do best.
    • It's also good to set goals that shore up your weaknesses. If you're brilliant in math and computer science, barely snagging D minus in English and afraid to talk to girls, setting the goals of getting your English grade up to a B minus and overcoming shyness are good for self esteem too. Someone else may not think of a C minus as a good grade in English, but when you raised it from a D minus and risked flunking every semester that is an important achievement, perhaps more difficult than pushing B minus to B plus.

  4. Value noble pursuits. Academics, the arts and sports are time-honored traditional pursuits which can bring out the best in a person by testing intellectual and physical limits, and fostering individual and team efforts. You could write a novel, write an original piece of music, create a graphic novel or paint well enough to gain honors. Look at ways in which these noble pursuits can be carried on through life beyond school.
  5. Value harmless, self-rewarding pursuits. Knitting, gardening, quilting, woodworking, decorative painting, collecting, model building, fandom (music, sports, television, movie), fashion, DIY, trivia, games, reading are all things that harm no one and give self esteem by your competence in them. They also bring social support from others who share your passion. It doesn't need to be a high and noble pursuit to be a goal that matters to you and it doesn't have to earn you a living if it gives you lifelong pleasure and relaxation. Many of the arts and sciences can also fall into this category even if you don't follow a career in them or pursue them to professional level - rocketry clubs, community theater, open mike comedy or music and leisure painting are all still worthwhile even if you choose to remain amateur and do these things only because you love them. They will also give you a good basis for building a new social life anytime you relocate. If there isn't a club for it in your new location you can found one and others will be glad you did.
  6. Help someone. Volunteer at a retirement home or a homeless shelter. Get involved with your church in a ministry to the sick or the poor. Donate your time and service to a humane animal shelter. Be a Big Brother or Big Sister. Nothing is more rewarding than offering your time and talent to help others in need. Getting outside your own head and your normal circle of influence can be eye opening and humbling.
  7. Practice humility. No one was ever a greater public servant than Mother Teresa, she helped the poor, the sick and the dying, and never turned anyone away. Yet Mother Teresa was a strong, noble soul who knew that if she did not help these people, perhaps no one would. She fought a lifetime battle with chronic depression and won, she never quit or surrendered to it. That's real self-esteem: "I am only one person, but I can help these people." That's knowing and believing in the power of One Person to make a real difference.
  8. Pass your skills and talents on to someone. Teaching someone your specialty will show you how much you really do know and have to offer. As you help a novice learn the skills you have honed, you will feel their admiration and respect for your prowess. In turn, you will be helping another develop those same skills, so that they may be passed on again.
  9. Allow children to build self-esteem honestly. Just because they're kids doesn't mean they're stupid - do you really think they don't know you let them win? Self-esteem isn't built by being handed a win. It's built by actually winning. Play a game with with your kid until he or she masters it - it can be anything: Dominoes, Scrabble, Pokemon, a video game, Hearts - and whatever you do, do not play down to him or her. When you win, celebrate. Don't belittle him or call him a loser, just say, "Yay, I win!" And then say, "Let's see, did you make any mistakes? Maybe you didn't - maybe it was just a bad draw. Let's look at your game and see where it could improve." Help him, show him how to improve, and play again. Eventually, he or she will beat you. When she/he does, tell him or her to stand up on the table and do a victory dance. Look at her or his face. See how your child feels when he/she knows he/she earned this win, fair and square, and on his or her own? It's a huge difference, because it tells the child they have the power to win, if he/she sticks with something and tries hard. It can set the tone for the way she or he goes at things the rest of her or his life. Don't "let" them win. By doing so you rob him of the chance to earn a win honestly.
    • Children understand the difference between being handed a win because you love them and winning because they won in a competitive situation. Don't be surprised if a child hands you a win, ask yourself if you've been a sore loser if that happens.
    • Encourage non-competitive activities and praise every step on the way to success rather than expecting perfection. It's good to have at least one goal that can only rest on comparing with your own previous performance, to keep from getting so wound up in pressure to succeed that any failure is catastrophic.



  • Nobody can give you self-esteem. You have to earn it yourself.
  • Discover the realistic limitations to your behavior and abilities. Allow yourself the mobility between success and failure. Forgiveness includes yourself.
  • Fandom, whether it's television, sports, movies, music, is a popular and effective type of goal and activity. Winning trivia contests in something you spend your free time enjoying is a mildly competitive activity that does build self esteem and strengthen memory in general. Don't forget that less official activities and pursuits are often less dependent on having school facilities and resources to pursue. Strong interests can also help you build and keep an active social life once school ends, even if you relocate for reasons of work. There will be other fans of your favorite music, shows, movies and sports in your new location too.
  • Choosing at least one non-competitive activity is important to have something that doesn't rest on other people's opinions and is easy to measure only against your own past progress. If you want to read everything Dickens wrote, that's a goal that you can complete and it won't have any bearing on anyone's reaction except other Dickens fans. Competing, even if you don't win, can become exciting and does help you sharpen your skills - thereby building your estimation of yourself. In competitive activities, choose those you're reasonably good at or capable of doing well if you apply yourself. Beating your head on brick walls by trying to compete in something where you lack the basic capacity to do it well enough to succeed does not build self esteem, only frustration. A heavy, large youth can try to become strong and fit, lose some weight and try out for football but is unlikely with that build to become a track star.
  • Competition in sports and similar activities is healthy when it's fair, within your abilities and played with real enjoyment and respect for others. Competition in which you compare yourself negatively with others and try to be "better" than them is not. You can never know what life is really like for other people. Much of it doesn't show, so setting your standards by other people's clothes, belongings, and rank at the office will simply demoralize you and lower your self-esteem. Someone with thousands of dollars in expensive clothes and electronics may be the one getting bought off by parents who'd rather get a root canal than spend an hour with their kid.
  • Believe that you can make a difference, one person or task at a time. Over time, as your efforts bear fruit, you will feel your inner sense of satisfaction at your accomplishments.
  • Have a sense of humor - especially about yourself. Don't take yourself too seriously, keep things in perspective.
  • Keep a written record of your progress toward your goal, whether that's your scores in sports practice, hours studied, dating your sketches, writing out what chords you learned or gaining or losing weight in pounds. Daily small successes are one of the best ways to build self esteem. It's not the state championship that gives you the strength to weather adversity later on, it was all the practice that helped you get on the team in the first place and all the practice before the first game, every one of those games along the way.


  • Avoid the temptation to turn self-esteem into conceit and arrogance. People with good self-esteem are very attractive. Arrogant louts aren't.
  • Avoid illegal and self destructive goals. Whoever drank the most beer without puking is likely to be an alcoholic, they gain the most alcohol tolerance. Joining a gang may get you a future where prison is your higher education and you can't step back out into a different life. Sex with as many partners as you can get will eventually lead to venereal disease instead of a deep relationship with someone who'll love you for life and treat you well.
  • Think of the long term as well as the short term. Sports that aren't easily available in adult life or peak when you're young are great if you're so good that you'll become professional. For many they lead to sitting on a couch at forty remembering glory days instead of looking forward to new triumphs at the bowling alley or racketball court. A consistently high GPA can lead to full free-ride scholarships, but if your self esteem rests on getting high grades, graduation from college can become a huge shock. Out in the working world where there are no external grades to measure your success by. So be sure at least some of your goals are timeless and not dependent on school facilities.

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23 April 2011

How to Help Your Family Go Green - wikiHow

How to Help Your Family Go Green

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Going green as family isn't always smooth sailing because everyone will bring their own ideas about being green to the table. Instead of seeing that as a hurdle, though, why not try embracing it, and seeing where listening to their ideas and reaching compromises can lead?
Going green as a family is a great process for joint decision-making, facing the budget together as you find ways to reduce the cost of living, and committing to a future that you know will be sustainable for your family.


  1. Talk about green issues as a family. Choose a time when you can all get together without distractions or absent family members. Ask every family member to explain what being green means to them and what they're already doing to be green at home, work, school, and in their leisure activities.
    • It can be helpful to keep notes so that you can revisit the different ideas, comments, and complaints that different family members raise during the discussion. Allot one person to be "record-keeper".

  2. Ask your family what they think you could be doing more of as a family to "be green". Avoid making final suggestions at this stage because your family will appreciate being heard and having their own ideas giving priority.
    • It can be a good strategy to ask your family to help you with the green changes that you wish to make and to offer to help them in turn with the green changes that they wish to make.
    • It might help to take a walk around the house (and garden) together to actually see the things that could be done differently.

  3. Work through the different ideas together. At this stage, you might have come up with differing viewpoints about what matters most in going green. Talk through the ways in which you accommodate each other's preferences and reach compromises on the priorities for your household. Things affecting the priority will likely include cost, viability, utility, and level of interest. Try to come up with a simple list of things that your household can make changes to and that every family member can be a part of.
    • Create a list of changes. Look around your house and make a list of all of the ways that your family could change to be more environmentally responsible. Pick a few small changes to start with.
    • It can be helpful to create a poster, chart, or other visual format that everyone can follow when learning new habits or implementing the changes.

  4. Do some research as a family. Visit the library and borrow books on such subjects as greening your home, green cleaning, green gardening, green living, etc. and allocate different reads to different members of the family. Have everyone come back a week or so later and report on what they've read and the things they think might work in your household. At this stage, the family will be able to discuss the merits, costs, desirability, etc., of the suggestions as a team, making this a joint decision-making process.
    • Find out what other people have done and think about how your family could use those ideas.

  5. Find activities in the house that everyone is able to do to "be green". Picking a small project to begin with is a good start, something that doesn't cost much (or anything) and that is more about habit-changing than anything too complicated. Some of these things might include:
    • Getting into the habit of turning off lights and electronics whenever anybody leaves a room unoccupied.
    • Starting a compost in the garden, or maybe a worm farm.
    • Beginning or improving on an edible garden. Aiming to eat more homegrown food that is tasty, pesticide-free, and saves money.
    • Game nights where all electronics are turned off. This is about bonding together as well as saving a little energy; it's a thoughtful gesture as well as a green one.
    • Water conserving activities are a great family exercise: Turning off water when brushing teeth, fixing dripping faucets the moment they're noticed, washing the car on a lawn rather than on concrete, cleaning the pool regularly so that water doesn't have to be changed, etc.
    • Minimizing waste. This is even better than recycling because recycling carries its own energy costs. However, still ensure that that household has a good recycling scheme in place, and that everyone is aware of how to repair and reuse household items, as well as not making a lot of waste in the first place. As an added bonus, recycling cans and scrap metal can earn extra money, and you might like to use this as an incentive for pocket money increases!

  6. Talk about your family's food habits. Unless you're already a vegetarian family, this is probably not the time to ask everyone to go veggie but at least raise it as an option. The things to discuss include:
    • Vegetarian meals could be made more frequent within the meal roster. Less meat consumption is healthy for everyone, and the environmental costs of producing milk, eggs, and meat includes increased land usage, high protein grain being fed to animals, and the production of methane. Again, borrow some books and DVDs from the library on this topic, including Michael Pollan's The Omnivore's Dilemma, Food Rules, and In Defense of Food, and borrow Morgan Spurlock's DVD, Super Size Me.
    • You might also like to check out websites on the Slow Food movement, and sites that are dedicated to locovore eating habits (eating locally produced food).
    • If anyone in the family does want to go vegetarian, borrow some books on achieving optimal health as vegetarian or vegan, to reassure yourselves that you are going to be getting all needed nutrients.
    • Don't forget about greening your pet care, greening your driving, and greening your boat care.

  7. Talk about transportation. Ask everyone how they currently get around, to work, to school, to sports events, to shopping, to the local store, etc. As a team, work out how many of the trips taken need to be by car with a single person in it. Look at how many ways you can drop the car usage down by walking, carpooling, cycling, catching public transportation, or other solutions.
    • Are you living in a walking-friendly area? It might even be time for a house shift. While it can be more expensive sometimes to live closer to your place or work or study, it might prove cheaper and less stressful to live closer than to be driving a long way every day.
    • Arrange family outings where you all cycle or walk to a local park or other place and have fun together. Make sure you know how to dress for all sorts of weather, so that you don't let a little rain deter you.
    • Ask the family to plan a shared timetable together in which one car trip can manage a whole lot of errands, drop-offs, and pick-ups at the one time rather than taking the car back and forth. This can be a fantastic way of working out how to save time too!

  8. Have a regular craft afternoon spent together. During this time, learn how to reuse things and make new things from old. Everyone has a basic realization now that plastic shopping bags aren't the greatest addition to the planet, so one of your projects could be to make reusable ones. Borrow some books from the library on making crafts by reusing objects, and check out the many websites devoted to this activity. Some of the things you could try include:

  9. Find ways to make use of things you don't need for their original purpose anymore. Develop a mindset as a family that items need to be reused as much as possible before being discarded for good. Some things you can reuse in many ways include:

  10. Encourage the family to find ways to reduce heat and air-conditioning usage in the home. This will be harder because everyone tends to feel temperatures differently but reminding each other that adding a sweater to get warmer or opening a window when it gets hotter are good options before fiddling with the thermostat.
    • Consider space heaters and fans for elderly or chronically ill family members who can't tolerate the temperature range the healthy young members can, or very small children. Everyone's needs are different but does it need the entire house to be brought to their temperature? Purchase Energy Star appliances for this purpose and if possible easily recyclable ones. New appliances can sometimes be a greener choice in the long run.
    • At night, keep the bedroom temperature cooler and use blankets or layer up.

  11. Be patient. Don't expect everyone in the family to change their ways overnight and do expect everyone to need gentle reminders to change long-held habits. For family members who feel less inclined to participate, try to offer incentives to get them to at least try a few small changes. Give the reluctant family member a small project and be generous with your praise when they complete it.
    • Small projects include recycling bottles, cans, and paper, and turning off the water while brushing your teeth.

  12. Consider costlier greening projects as part of your planning. If the budget doesn't stretch to these initially, start a savings plan. This might include retrofitting options such as insulation, solar heating, and gray water systems. Not being able to afford these straight away isn't a reason to avoid them; it's a good opportunity to agree that you do want them within the time it takes to be able to save for them.

  13. Be a good example. Incorporate green living into your life every day by showing how it is done; equally, make it clear how simple it is, and how fulfilling it is for you. Set the example and your family members will follow.



  • Make a speech to your family, friends, your school or work and say, "I really think we should go green and help protect the environment by _________________." You'll be surprised by how many people agree with you and will help out in going green.
  • Energy Star appliances can save energy, use less water and ultimately save your family money, so look for these when changing appliances in your home.
  • Make every day Earth Day, pick up trash around your neighborhood, plant a tree.
  • Did you know? Americans recycle about 85 million tons of waste every year, producing a benefit comparable to removing the emissions from 35 million passenger cars.


  • Many people switch off to "green messaging" because they think it means puritanism, hair shirts, and more griping. Keep the messaging upbeat, doable, and in line with your family values.
  • If you're trying to teach your parents to become green, do it gently. They won't appreciate any implications that they're wrecking the environment with their habits!

Things You'll Need

  • Recycling bins
  • Craft station and reusable goodies for turning into new things
  • Family meeting space (cozy, with snacks)
  • Paper and markers for recording the ideas and for making plans
  • Internet and library for research

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04 April 2011

I am officially a manga maniac hehe

I am falling in love with Ren Tsuruga and he is a manga / anime character... how???? :P

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